On May 24, British Prime Minister Theresa May announced that she resigned. The usually steely leader who could not negotiate an agreement for the UK's exit from the EU was emotional as she spoke and choked during her opinion.
British commentators and tweeters had almost as much to say about her tears as about substance of her message (she will hand over leadership in six weeks). "Let's save our tears for Theresa May's victims," tweeted Daily Mirror associate editor Kevin Maguire a mood that echoed many. The patron wrote that "May save her tears for herself. If she had only shown this humanity before." The Independent said: "When she allowed her to show during her departure, Theresa could finally do something good for women. "Metro UK condemned that" maize termination was anger not self-pity. "
For example, AOC believes it is important to show vulnerability. In a recent New York Times (paywall) story on the documentary film Knock Down the House showing the campaigns of four female congressional candidates in 2018, she said, "What I love about the vulnerability we see throughout this movie from everyone – it shows the world another strength model. You know I'm like ugly crying on a screen. "She realizes that her political opponents can try to use the tears against her, but predict that it won't work . "I already know they are going to look at screenshots of me, cry and make memes out of it. I think the fact that you have nothing to hide is a huge and frightening force," AOC.
Likewise, Amy Vilela of Las Vegas, who did not win her bid for public office but also depicted in the film, explained "As a businesswoman, you are always told," You should never let them see you crying. "But in the end it came down to: Darn what I want more of our politicians to cry."
In fact, it seems as if crying politicians have become more common. Former British Prime Minister David Cameron cried in 2014 while being praised by a colleague. The accomplished, tough guy, Russian President Vladimir Putin, who plays hockey and famous riding horses who are shirtless in Siberia, cried during a victory speech at Red Square in 2012. Obama cried at least five times under his two conditions as US president.
But the emotional impressions at work are only OK in some contexts and more acceptable to men, executive professor Kimberly Elsbach of the University of California, Davis, writes in Quartz. In a study she conducted, observers of crying in response to critical feedback attributed tears to weakness and saw them as unprofessional or manipulative. But investigators thought it was appropriate to cry privately about negative reviews and not judge these tears so hard. She says psychologists have found that people tend to experience crying women as showing an inherent feature that makes them less skilled, but men's tears are considered just situational and thus less problematic.
Last month's Sarah Todd did the case for crying at work. She argues that emotional screens are a sign of engagement, meaning employers need employees who occasionally grin, based on the results of Liane Davey, an organizational psychologist and author of the new book The Good Fight: Use Productive Conflict getting your team and organization back on track . Davey claims that crying is not a problem, but the cultural norms that limit tears are – and need to be changed.
It seems natural that May, who failed in his mission to negotiate a Brexit agreement and said she regrets this failure and "tremendous gratitude" for having had the chance to lead the nation she loves, would cry a little while he fired. Even Iron Lady, Britain's only other female prime minister, Margaret Thatcher, was grinning when she left the office in 1990. Perhaps a hard work had to do and the performance review she received was negative. Maybe if she cried privately, it might have been more appropriate for some, but her tears are really the least of Britain's problems now.