Dear ABBY: I am currently dating someone, and although it has not been so long, everything has so far been good. We each have two children from previous relationships. We have discussed the subject of marriage, have a child of our own and even adoption.
One day he told me he wanted to tell me something. He ended up saying that, before he entered the military since, he had "to" marry his ex. The problem is that even though they have lived apart for three years, she is not his ex. is still married.
He said that they have no interest in being together and have both moved. When I asked when he was planning to divorce her, he said he did not have the financial ability to do so. I don't know how to take this news. Some suggestions? ̵
DEAR THROWN: You need more information. Has this man supported his ex-wife all this time, or is she self-supporting? Who supports the children? How much money does he think he owes her if they divorce?
I'm not familiar with the divorce law in Nevada, but a lawyer who is allowed to practice there will be. It would be very worthwhile to make an appointment with someone to discuss what your girlfriend has told you. You must do it before you become more involved in him.
Dear ABBY: In I write in the hope that you will print my letter and with your response increase awareness of male breast cancer. A male family member was recently diagnosed with breast cancer, and besides the problems that all newly diagnosed with cancer are going through, there are additional problems that cause stress.
Since male breast cancer is so rare, all brochures and information is aimed at women. As a result, my family feels very alone. Besides the family, he does not want anyone, including members of his church, to know his diagnosis because he is afraid of what they want to think. Encouragement like telling him that his friends can offer additional support and prayers has gone as far as ever.
Abby, can you share with your readers some information and resources for men with breast cancer? We would be very grateful. – COMMON FAMILY MEMBERS
DEAR CARING: There is information on breast cancer in men online. If your family wants to visit cancer.org and search for male breast cancer he will discover an abundance of information on the subject. For suggestions for support groups, he must call the American Cancer Society's guide: 800-227-2345.
Your family member is NOT alone. I wish him a quick and complete recovery.
Dear ABBY: I work two jobs and took time from my second job so I could see my four grandchildren for a week when their parents had to leave the state. They called the 14-year-old daily, but never called or spoke to me during that time. Am I sharp or disrespectful? – FEELING LIKE DIRT
Dear feeling as director: I do not blame you for being miffed. It was thoughtless and ungracious of them not to ask to speak to you in a moment. But if they didn't respect you, I'm sure they wouldn't have left their precious children in your care.
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